Stop ‘shoulding’ on yourself

We’ve all got a little soundtrack in our head, muttering away, talking to us, almost constantly. Yes, you have: the one that’s saying to you right now, “monologue in my head???? What’s she on about now?” – that one. It’s worth pausing to pay it some attention now and again. Why? Because that constant commentator… Read more

7 ways to build self-awareness

  Why self-awareness? When it comes to being Emotionally Intelligent, self-awareness is often described as the ‘cornerstone’ of our EQ. Here’s a few reasons why it’s worth taking time to build our self-awareness: We can identify what we’re good at (and not so good at) We can better manage our thoughts, feelings and behaviours We… Read more

6 ways to say ‘Thank You’

Investors in People (IiP) have just published their annual ‘Job exodus trends’. It makes essential reading for managers – though brace yourselves, it’s not pretty. Here’s a few headlines: 77% are stressed of respondents at work Over half are looking for another job 24% are unhappy at work The point that really stood out for… Read more

Why should you review your year – and how?

  You may well be thinking, “Really? Why should I bother!?” – and you may have a point. After all, things change: unpredictable events, unforeseen outcomes and unintended consequences. Life happens. On some level, we know that looking back is an essential step to moving forward. Yet we can give ourselves too many excuses to… Read more

Tips to help you survive the work Christmas Party

The words ‘Work Christmas Party’ can strike terror into the strongest souls. According to the Institute of Leadership and Management, even senior managers feel anything but relaxed at these events. If you’re not scared, I can only surmise that this is your first year in full-time employment. Here’s hoping you still have your job the… Read more

Why You’re Not Achieving Your Goals

  How are you doing? Good? And how well are you progressing towards your goals right now? Not this quarter, or even this month, but right now, here, today. If we’re not careful, all that planning (or daydreaming, or wishful thinking) we did way back when the year seemed all shiny and new will come… Read more

7 tips for managing a first jobber

Your team has a new member: a brand-new employee in their very first job. They may be a new graduate recruit, or an apprentice straight out of college or even school. You have been assigned as their manager. If you’re new to managing people, before you go power mad, bear in mind that it’s not… Read more

Psych stuff round-up

Here’s one of my occasional round-ups of psychology reporting and studies that I hope you’ll find useful. Which is more likely to foster wellbeing – introversion or extraversion? Here we go again…Whilst readers who tend towards extraversion may be thinking, ‘obvs, wellbeing’s all about being outgoing and talkative’, and more introverted people may be thinking,… Read more

Summer’s a good time to…

Wimbledon. Festivals. Downpours. Must be summer. Note: Summer’s also a good time to update this post 🙂 so I’ve added some new and updated links. When the days are long and it’s still light when we leave work, we can view life a little differently. There may be just as much work to do, depending… Read more